"You Don't Know Me" by Ben Folds featuring Regina Spektor is my new favorite song. It combines two artists that I love into one really great song. (push play!)
I love the lyrics:
I wanna ask you - Do you ever sit and wonder, It's so strange That we could be together for So long, and never know, never care What goes on in the other one's head? Things I've felt but I've never said You said things that I never said So I'll say something that I should have said long ago: (You don't know me) You don't know me at all (You don't know me) You don't know me at all (at all) You could have just propped me up on the table like a mannequin Or a cardboard stand-up and paint me (paint me) Any face that you wanted me To be seen. We're Damned by the existential moment where We saw the couple in the coma and It was we were the cliché, But we carried on anyway. So, sure, I could just close my eyes. Yeah, sure, trace and memorize, But can you go back once you know
(You don't know me) You don't know me at all (You don't know me) You don't know me at all (at all) (You don't know me) You don't know me at all (You don't know me) You don't know me If I'm the person that you think I am (Ah ah ahh) Clueless chump you seem to think I am (Ah ah ahhh) So easily led astray, An errant dog who occasionally escapes and needs a shorter leash, then Why the f*%& would you want me back?!
Maybe it's because
(You don't know me at all)
Ahhh ah Ahhh ah (You don't know me, you don't know me.) Ahhh ah Ahhh ah So, what I'm trying to say is What (What?) I'm trying to tell you It's not gonna come out like I wanna say it cause I know you'll only change it. (Say it.) (You don't know me) You don't know me at all (You don't know me) You don't know me at all (at all) (You don't know me) You don't know me at all (You don't know me) You don't know me at all (at all) What? (Mmmm, ohh oh Ah ah ah ah ah Aha ah ah ah Ah-ah-ah-ah-ah Oh-oh-oh-oh-oh Aha ah Ah ah Ah-ah-ah-ah-ah-ah-ah-ah-ah Oh-oh-oh-oh oh ohh)
Now, I know the song is kind of depressing, but seriously, anyone who has been in a serious relationship for a chunk of time knows that you do get to a point where you're just wondering what the hell is going on anymore. It's not the end of the world...it's just a point where you have to get your own worlds back on course to where they collide into each other again.
I can really relate to this song right now. I see both myself and my hubby in the lyrics. The frustration, the wondering, and the desire to stick it out and get to know each other all over again. Yesterday was our 8 month anniversary, and even in that short amount of time, I know there's room to grow closer...to be better individuals...to be a better couple. In my humble opinion and in my limited experience, the key to having a successful relationship is selflessness. If there is any selfishness, a wedge is put in place, and you end up feeling alienated and/or hopeless. The kicker here (as I'm processing what I'm typing...) is that I am and have been really selfish. Ugh. I love and hate realizations about myself.
Now, I have no idea if Patrick feels this way too, or if it's just me. I do know this is a LOT of self-disclosure for a blog. This is my "journal," though, so it is what it is.