Saturday, August 23, 2008

New Favorite Song

"You Don't Know Me" by Ben Folds featuring Regina Spektor is my new favorite song. It combines two artists that I love into one really great song. (push play!)

I love the lyrics:

I wanna ask you -
Do you ever sit and wonder,
It's so strange

That we could be together for

So long, and never know, never care

What goes on in the other one's head?

Things I've felt but I've never said

You said things that I never said

So I'll say something that I should have said long ago:

(You don't know me)

You don't know me at all

(You don't know me)

You don't know me at all (at all)

You could have just propped me up on the table like a mannequin

Or a cardboard stand-up and paint me (paint me)
Any face that you wanted me
To be seen.
Damned by the existential moment where
We saw the couple in the coma and
It was we were the cliché,
But we carried on anyway.

So, sure, I could just close my eyes.

Yeah, sure, trace and memorize,
But can you go back once you know

(You don't know me)
You don't know me at all
(You don't know me)
You don't know me at all (at all)

(You don't know me)

You don't know me at all
(You don't know me)
You don't know me

If I'm the person that you think I am (Ah ah ahh)

Clueless chump you seem to think I am (Ah ah ahhh)
So easily led astray,
An errant dog who occasionally escapes and needs a shorter leash, then
Why the f*%& would you want me back?!

Maybe it's because

(You don't know me at all)

Ahhh ah
Ahhh ah

(You don't know me,

you don't know me.)

Ahhh ah

Ahhh ah

So, what I'm trying to say is

What (What?)
I'm trying to tell you
It's not gonna come out like I wanna say it cause I know you'll only change it.
(Say it.)

(You don't know me)

You don't know me at all
(You don't know me)
You don't know me at all (at all)

(You don't know me)

You don't know me at all
(You don't know me)
You don't know me at all (at all)


(Mmmm, ohh oh

Ah ah ah ah ah
Aha ah ah ah
Aha ah
Ah ah
Oh-oh-oh-oh oh ohh)

Now, I know the song is kind of depressing, but seriously, anyone who has been in a serious relationship for a chunk of time knows that you do get to a point where you're just wondering what the hell is going on anymore. It's not the end of the's just a point where you have to get your own worlds back on course to where they collide into each other again.

I can really relate to this song right now. I see both myself and my hubby in the lyrics. The frustration, the wondering, and the desire to stick it out and get to know each other all over again. Yesterday was our 8 month anniversary, and even in that short amount of time, I know there's room to grow be better be a better couple. In my humble opinion and in my limited experience, the key to having a successful relationship is selflessness. If there is any selfishness, a wedge is put in place, and you end up feeling alienated and/or hopeless. The kicker here (as I'm processing what I'm typing...) is that I am and have been really selfish. Ugh. I love and hate realizations about myself.

Now, I have no idea if Patrick feels this way too, or if it's just me. I do know this is a LOT of self-disclosure for a blog. This is my "journal," though, so it is what it is.


Mark Salinas said...

Nice song and congratulations on your 8 months. Yes, there are many challenges along the journey but a resilient attitude shall push you forward with tremendous growth. Nice post!

Victoria said...

Well, after 22 years of marriage, I still feel this way sometimes. It is all an ebb and flow. Highs and lows, togetherness and separation, give and take. And sometimes I think it is good to be the one who wants, because you allow the other one to give, which lets them know that they are needed. It's all a matter of trying to find balance in the overall of your combined life and at the same time being able to except that the every day to day stuff often feels unbalanced. I hope that makes sense! Congrats on your 8 month anniversary!

Alison said...

Mark- Thanks for the encouragement!

Victoria- I love your blog and your creativity. I have a lot of respect for your ability to do and take care of so many things (wife, mom, artist, blogger, friend, etc., etc.). Thanks for your supportive words. :)